The sensual you
Four actions that will guarantee your
sensual awakening for 2006
By Dr. Charley Ferrer
Create a Sensual Library.
Begin to collect books, video tapes, cassettes and CDs, music,
and pictures which you find sensual and erotic. You are an
adult, reading books on sexuality and sensual discovery are
no longer “forbidden by mom”. Give yourself permission
to explore sensual topics to discover what you like, affirm
you’re not alone in your desires, and discover new ways
of looking at yourself.
Create a Sensuality Journal.
Paste those pictures you found erotic or called to you in
some primal way into a journal. It could be something you
saw in a magazine, on a postcard, hanging in a museum. Paste
passages from books, yes even romance novels, which you found
erotic or sensually thought provoking. Poems. Short stories.
Even fantasies you’ve written in secret should be pasted
into your journal. Ensure to incorporate those risqué thoughts
and dark fantasies which you whisper about or are embarrassed
to acknowledge out loud. It’s okay; this is Your Sensuality
Journal. You’re an adult. You can have whatever you
wish in it. Even pictures of your lover or yourself in various
shall we say “arousing positions”. The book is
yours to create therefore make it look how you desire and
share it with whomever you choose; or stash it under your
bed and bring it out only in private for hours of fun with
yourself or a lover.
Mark your Calendar for Sensual Adventure.
Write down ten sensual things you wish to try and
explore; have your partner do the same. Write each wish on
a separate piece of paper, toss them in a jar, shake well,
pull out your calendar, close your eyes and pick one, then
write it down on your calendar for Wednesday night (or any
other night your free). Then pick another and another giving
yourself one new activity every two weeks. On the date you
choose, you WILL perform that sensual activity—even
amidst giggles and blushing. Ensure to prepare for it. This
is your opportunity to be adventurous, to be the actor, producer,
and playwright. Let your imagination soar, and most importantly,
allow yourself to have fun. (You can add tokens from these
dates to your Sensuality Journal!)
Self-exploration. This is
a must in order to bring sensual joy into your life and embrace
the divine sexual and sensual nature inside yourself. This
is where you ask yourself those life altering questions, like:
What does sex mean to me? What is the difference between love
and sex? How sexual/ sensual do I want to be? Why won’t
I allow myself to achieve an orgasm? Why do I suffer from
sexual dysfunctions? Why don’t I feel comfortable asking
for what I desire? And much more. Asking yourself “why”
you do something or forbid yourself your full sensuality will
assist you in accepting who you really are and help awaken
your sensual and sexual divinity. My book, Para La Mujer
Sensual and The Latina Kama Sutra: The
Ultimate Guide to Dating, Sex and Erotic Pleasures (El
Kama Sutra Latina—July 2006) contains vital
information and self-exploration exercises to enhance sensuality
for both men and women.
You are an adult. You can make your own
choices. You no longer have to cross at the corner with the
light, wear underwear, or eat breakfast. You can make your
own decisions, and have for some time now. It’s time
you treated yourself like a mature intelligent sensual human
being. If not now, when?
Make your 2006 Sensual Resolution today,
and let the good times roll.